Why do children swear obscenities? What to do if a child swears obscenities? How to wean a child to swear

Material words have long been considered obscene vocabulary, and in some countries such statements are considered petty hooliganism. And, yes, you can even get a fine for such expressions. Today, this topic is disturbed by the majority of parents, since it is precisely the schoolchildren (and not only) at risk. Parents shrug their hands and do not know what to do. And the true reasons are not enough to think about the courage.

The child swears obscenities: what to do?

The main task of such words is an insult or refusal. And also, it can be to relieve mental and emotional stress in a speaker. Sometimes it simply makes speech more spectacular and expressive. But, in any case, this is an indicator of low culture and poor education (if it concerns children).

Why do children swear obscenities? So, first of all, each of the parents should raise a question. And not blindly start scolding your child.

• Of course, it all depends on the age of the baby. But! All roots begin to grow from the family. After all, this is the first social community with which he takes an example. No, this does not mean that all families are the same and guilty only by parents.
• The second reason is our society. Even if your family is not customary to use such words. Look around, listen. The mat was so filled with space that many use them unconsciously.

Important: perhaps someone does not agree with such an analogy. But mat can be compared with cigarettes. Smoking people most often do not even understand what they smoke. They do it automatically. The situation is the same with curses.

Most youth (although this is a common phenomenon among all ages) simply use curses, like parasitic words. If they miss them, some seem to be lost in the essence of speech and it is already difficult to add a few words together. Yes, a little exaggerated. But this is really an important and relevant topic.

• School, kindergarten and other circles. These are the places where you can hear bad words. After all, children and their parents are different. By the way, it is worth highlighting age -related reasons:
  • children from 2 to 3 years old (inclusive) speaks obscene words unconsciously. It's no secret that the kids absorb everything like sponges. Remember how they repeated their first words for you. And, I think, each parent had such incidents - they heard a bad word for the first time. It doesn’t matter where. Maybe dad (or mom) said in a fit of emotions, or he heard somewhere on the street. The bottom line is that then this word becomes his beloved for several days;
  • children over 4 years old are already starting to curse consciously! No, they still do not fully understand the meaning of the words themselves. But they already know that they cannot be said. And if you say a bad word, then mom or dad will immediately respond and begin to scold or calmly explain that this is bad. Yes, their actions at this age are a little insidious. After all, the main task lies in the fact that kids simply want to attract the attention of parents. And let this have a negative consequence;
  • already older than 5 years (someone begins such a period a little later-at 6 years) begin to protest. All parents are familiar with the phrase: "I am already an adult (adult)." The child already understands the majority of curses and knows that this is bad to do so. And pay attention to most children do not like such words! But when parents are too crushing or controlling, the baby can thus express his "I".

Important: often small children (up to 7-8 years old) simply want the attention of parents to themselves! Analyze how much time after work you devote how much you play together. It is important to play with the baby. Yes, we all come from work tired, but remember - childhood will quickly pass. Pay the baby as much attention as long as he needs it!

• Children over 7 and up to 12 years old are trying to imitate the elders and seem adults, quite clearly understanding the meaning of these words. Also, there may be a protest sign to parents, especially if excessive pressure occurs on their part.
• Adolescence, I think, does not require detailed explanations. It is enough to recall yourself at that age. It didn't work? So, recall. The main goal is independence, the desire to seem adult and independent. And it's cool! At least the kids thinks so.

• Another important reason for today is the Internet. You can slightly attribute to this category and television, but today most films or programs do without curses (which is undoubtedly pleasing).
• Make sure your baby is watching. We will not delve into the topic of how correctly and how much you can watch cartoons. Simply, control (but in moderation, leave personal space).
• The main reason is an example of the elders! No wonder they say that before teaching a child, educate yourself. It is necessary to work on yourself and monitor your speech.

The reaction of the parents can also be completely different and even the opposite. Some begin to scold or beat on the lips, while others are indifferent to this in general. The wrong situation is wrong.

Below we will consider how to behave with the baby in such situations and what to do with it. But now it is worth paying attention to the indifference of parents. Such behavior can only aggravate the situation. And swearing obscenities is not only not cultural. Let's get into the topic in more detail - why you can’t swear to children.

This item relate not only to children, but also to adults:

1. There are even proverbs among the people, as the mat on our fate affects. For example, you can not swear in the forest or on the river bank, since the goblin or water, respectively, be offended. It also occurs in our house and soul, when a person curses obscenities, he calls for demons and evil spirits.
2. From the point of view of psychology, the mat carries negative energy. And, first of all, a scolding person harms his aura and a protective field.
3. Yes, he can offend the interlocutor. But again, first of all, he will expose himself as an ill -mannered and vulgar person.
   • By the way! Mostly, those people who are uncertained, notorious and with low self -esteem are swearing.
4. Since our energy field weakens, the protective functions of the body also fall. That is, immunity.
5. And there is even such a version that abusive words lead to early aging.
6. And not surprising, because bad words make us spiritually poor. So, physically.
7. There is a proverb that "a word can be injured." Sometimes, in the anger of curses, can affect further life. Since they will come deep in the heart.
8. And in general, it is harmful, ugly and even considered a petty crime!

Small children swear obscenities: what to do?

Small children, repeat, say such words unconsciously. Most likely, they do not even understand that they said some bad word. Even if such words are not used in your family, it is simply not possible to protect the baby from the mat. After all, we have already indicated above that he could hear them anywhere and completely from strangers.

A 3 -year -old child swears obscenities - this is a problem that requires a special approach:

1. In no case, do not scold the baby and, moreover, do not need to give him his lips. By this, you will only affect his self -esteem and not for the better. Understand better in the reason for one.
2. If parents use obscene words, then you do not need to go to the fortuneteller - follow their speech. If the question arises: why did he like this of all the words - abusive? Pay attention to what intonation we pronounce curses. That's right, they have great emotionality and high intonation.
3. The first time, of course, should just pretend that nothing happened. Believe me, if the baby sees that adults do not pay attention, he will lose interest. The children first always want to get the attention of parents. And how do they begin to behave when all relatives admire them? Repeat some action somewhat (and maybe many) times.
4. In no case, do not tell your girlfriend, mother or husband the funny moment when your child uttered a curse. It will only pour oil into the fire. Since everyone is funny, then you need to use it more often. Or do it without the presence of children.
5. Do not punish the baby. This can only angry him and can continue to use bad words in protest.
6. It is not necessary to tell the child that he is small - you can’t say that. Is it possible for adults? Children already want to grow faster, but here it will also be possible to swear. And do not forget that with age they become adults, this one of 4-5 years old (depending on who has what development).
   

   Important: who gave adults such a right - to swear obscenities? The general rules of etiquette are unacceptable at any age. And an important detail - the elders always act as an example for children!

7. You need to talk to your child! It will be difficult for a three -year -old baby to understand the meaning of the word “ugly” or simply “impossible”. It is worth showing imagination and explaining to the baby why you should not say such words.
   • in general, the word “impossible” acts on children like a red rag on a bull. Of course, all children are different. But it is better to replace it in other words: “not worth it”, “it is not desirable.”
8. Better yet, tell the baby what advantages are that you do not swear! Come up with your parable or legend about a swearing boy (or a girl), and connect folk signs about curses to the assistants (we mentioned some above).

They explained everything and mentally talked, and the baby promised not to say bad words anymore. But then the teacher begins to complain about him - the child curses obscenities in kindergarten. Perhaps he gave obvious hints before your conversation:

• An adult behavior scheme does not change in any way. It does not depend on where the baby uses bad words. The main task is conversation! And rinse your mouth with soap is not the best idea. It’s better to go brush your teeth.
• It is important to understand that there is a slight difference in kindergarten - there are friends. That is, one curses obscenities, the rest pick up. Again, explain to your child why these are bad words. You can put an example of a scolding friend, because he behaves very ugly.
• Another important nuance is authority. Yes, even at that age. "I swear - it means I'm cool!" Let the child understand that the respect of friends can be earned in other ways.
• If the baby asks questions about some curses, react to them calmly. You can even prepare and tell the history and meaning of each word (which he is interested in). The main task is to convey to him the idea that obscene words should never be used.

• And one more important detail is not ashamed of the child in public! The teacher made a remark, silently and calmly reacted, and at home after dinner they talked to this topic. If you begin to scold the child with his friends, this will undermine his faith in himself and the authority among his peers.
• It should be noted that in kindergarten there is still a reception for children - a good boy (girl). When the child becomes older, and will already understand the meaning and meaning of curses, let him know that no one respects cursing people. And first of all, he does not respect himself. Since insulting another person, he humiliates himself and shows not from the best.

The child swears at school: what to do?

We have already said that after five years the child curses consciously and, moreover, does it intentionally. That is, he already knows when and which word is better to use. At this age, the main thing is to chop it in the bud. Then begins a school, friends and an independent life. Well, as an independent one - you no longer go with him for a walk by the handle, he more often and more begins to communicate with his peers, goes to visit them (or vice versa). It is important not to start such a position, but not to go too far.

If the child swears obscenities at school:

• In no case, do not scold or beat! At this age, the child begins to form as a person. He has his own friends, the basics of communication are laid down and even a position among peers. If you scold, criticize, or, even worse, beat your child, then he will simply close in himself. And this is not only bad to affect communication with friends, but also on study. After all, an uncertain person doubts everything.
• Perhaps he did not have very good, say, comrades. Also a very common mistake by most parents is to prohibit him with someone to be friends or to impose friends you like. This is reflected only in a riot and even greater curse. If he really got into a bad company, try to gently and unobtrusively convince him that these are not the best friends.

Important: very often, guys from families in which parents swear obscenities often spill their anger in the form of obscene expressions. And this can happen to your child when they, for example, quarreled. There is no need to say that the comrade is bad and you should not be friends with him. Just make it clear that such words can greatly hurt them, and speak them unacceptable. As they say, on a vivid example.

• At this age, such aspects as meaning and position in society become important. Do not tell fairy tales about Lesha, who takes bad boys. And speaking obscene words is bad. If a 7 -year -old child swears obscenities, then he himself perfectly understands this. Soul conversations are important here. Moreover, you need to call things with your names. Press (only softly, without pressure) on who he will become. It is worth giving visual examples of which people on the street more often swear (they do not need to search for a long time).
• Mat is often used to express their anger. You can create such a rule in your family - replace obscene words with acceptable and harmless expressions. Let others not understand you in this case. But then, just get closer with your child.

• Better yet, teach and make it clear to the child that you can get rid of tension in another way. For example, go in for sports, running or just walk in the fresh air.
• Although we said that it is not necessary to tell children to the dangers of a mat at this age, one version at that age can be announced. Speaking obscene words, we seem to turn to the dark side of life and turn away from our guardian angel. Therefore, troubles and troubles will happen in life.
• If teachers complain about the student, do not press the child with a child with them. At this age, the support and faith of the parents is very important. Of course, teachers also do not need to be thrown into defense of their child. Just try to find out what happened at home. If the child breaks, try to find out the reason. Find out if you can help or come up with a joint solution to this problem.
• And one more advice - let the child slowly from yourself. He must prepare for adulthood and become independent. Give him the right to choose and vote in your family, let him make mistakes. Always support your child, but do not control and do not indicate too much. Especially already at that age.

Parents swear obscenities with a child

Well parents are the first example. Already repeatedly mentioned this. But obscene words are reflected on the character of the child, and even on his fate.

• Children of parents who constantly swear obscene, uncertains and more susceptible to depression.
• Because of their shyness, they often study poorly at school.
• And permanent mats addressed to their mental state so that such people either take the wrong path or end life with suicide.
• Yes, a little frightening and maybe even a little exaggerated. After all, we all hear sooner or later and even say obscene words. Of course, this relate to those parents who constantly swear obscenities and break down on their child:
  • work on yourself! Go in for sports or creativity. Even if it does not know how to draw, create. This helps to relieve voltage;
  • replace obscene words. Of course, this will take time;
  • or put a rule that you will put some money in a piggy bank for each mat. And spend the collected amount on the child;
  • and remember, only a weak person will be affirmed at the expense of another personality, weaker. And the mat negatively affects not only your life, but also the fate of your child!

How to wean a child to swear obscenities?

We have already examined that at different ages the causes of obscene words and actions to combat them will be different. Naturally, weaning from the use of harmful words is not easy. After all, it is like a bad habit. We have already stipulated some points, so it remains only to summarize a little.

But first I would like to touch on another topic when my husband scolds obscenities with a child.

• Why is this aspect so important? After all, mothers also use swear words. The fact is that dad is considered the head of the family (even if most of all things and finances lies with mom). So it is in charge of us. No, for children mom is much more important. And the situation will extremely negatively affect the baby if the husband’s abusive words are addressed to the spouse.
• To begin with, it is worth dividing the situations at whom and at what point the husband begins to swear. If his words are expressed to the child or mother, this is a slightly different situation that requires radical measures. But this is a completely different topic.
• We will consider the situation when the husband curses while playing at the computer or is just used to expressing his feelings and emotions like that. That is, everything is fine in the family, but dad cannot say a word without a mat. And unable to control yourself even with a child.

Important: even in anger, one cannot, in any case, insult your child or swear! This will greatly touch his psyche and negatively affect his behavior in the future!

• Men are just big children. Yes, this is a fact. That's just another woman was supposed to educate him. Therefore, you can arm yourself with the help of mother -in -law. Let her husband somehow express himself with obscene words, and she will already conduct instructive conversations to him.
• If not the possibility, desire or did not help this method, then it remains only to talk and explain to her husband. Yes, as a child, why is it bad, but how to affect the child.
• The main thing is to emphasize that dad is a great authority for his children, and they will imitate him in everything.

• But do not crush! You can stop while interrupting the appearance of beautiful words.
• If the husband curses obscenities during the games at the computer or watching certain television programs, then set the time so that it passes without the presence of the child. That is, when he is at school (kindergarten), in class or sleeps.

How to explain to the child that you can not swear obscenities?

We have already examined several options that depend on the age of the child. But there are some aspects that belong to any age.

• Do not scold, do not beat and do not press! Children (unfortunately or to joy) have some kind of spring. And so you press the button with your decrees and prohibitions, and the spring pushes it back. It is better to calmly explain and discuss everything well.
• Do not try to intimidate the children! As some do: "we will wash their mouths with soap." By this, you will only push the child. Especially when it comes to a teenager. You need to be very restrained with them. Senior students to persuade at least that he does not swear in your presence.
• We gave examples of some proverbs above. They can become a small weapon. Indeed, obscene words negatively affect our energy and fate.
• And it is important - always stay on the side of your child and try to help in everything. If he feels your support, then you can trust you. More often, those children who did not receive due attention from their parents are swearing.

To explain to the child how bad it is to swear obscenities, to calmly talk heart to heart. Of course, take into account the age of the baby. But the main thing, during such a conversation, try to be a friend, not a parent. We indicated above - why it is bad to swear. Arm yourself with such tips, you can even make sketches in a notebook before a conversation.

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